How did you do yesterday and today? I didn't have the opportunities I had hoped for as Mr. P hasn't been feeling well the last couple days after long days at work and long days on the farm. But, I have just let him nap and rest as my show of appreciation. I sometimes get this little nagging voice that says, "Doesn't he know how long your day is when 2 small children?" but let me tell you ladies, it's hard to ignore, but contempt will ruin your relationship faster than you'd ever expect. So stay strong, girls. Keep following the rules and let's get to Day 4.
Day Four:"...let him labor, working with his hands what is good..." Eph. 4:28
We are all accountable for the things we say, both negative and positive words. Have you embraced the challenge to speak only positive things to your husband and to others about him? Here's a suggestion that touches the core of your husband's world.
Some women take their husband's career for granted, and they show it in many ways. Do you "dump" on your husband at the end of the workday, or do you strengthen and encourage him with your words? A wise wife will make her husband feel that she values and appreciates his work. Let him know that you are glad he is a hard worker. Take opportunities to praise his diligence and resourcefulness to others.
If your husband is out of work, unable to work, or refuses to work, you'll need to be more creative. Praise him for a character quality that you see in him that would be a vital part of a successful career - such as persistence, decisiveness, strength, an analytical mind, organizational skills, good with people, good listener, determination, etc.
I think for men, words help, but actions speak even louder. Do you help your husband get ready for work, have dinner ready when he gets home? I'm not great at this, but I'm trying. Helping him get out the door, and helping fill his stomach after a long day is always appreciated. It's really easy to hand him a screaming kid as soon as he walks in the door so you can get a moments' peace. But, honestly, most of the time, he wants to just relax. For Mr. P, that doesn't mean he ignores me, it usually means we chat a little about his day while he unpacks his lunchbox and changes his clothes, then he lays down on the couch with the baby and they both take a nap and I get dinner ready. It works well for him, and it allows him time to unwind before the evening chores.
So how are you doing? Easy, Difficult?
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